Exodus 20:12
Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.
Original Language Analysis
כַּבֵּ֥ד
Honour
H3513
כַּבֵּ֥ד
Honour
Strong's:
H3513
Word #:
1 of 15
to be heavy, i.e., in a bad sense (burdensome, severe, dull) or in a good sense (numerous, rich, honorable); causatively, to make weighty (in the same
אֶת
H853
אֶת
Strong's:
H853
Word #:
2 of 15
properly, self (but generally used to point out more definitely the object of a verb or preposition, even or namely)
אָבִ֖יךָ
thy father
H1
אָבִ֖יךָ
thy father
Strong's:
H1
Word #:
3 of 15
father, in a literal and immediate, or figurative and remote application
וְאֶת
H853
וְאֶת
Strong's:
H853
Word #:
4 of 15
properly, self (but generally used to point out more definitely the object of a verb or preposition, even or namely)
אִמֶּ֑ךָ
and thy mother
H517
אִמֶּ֑ךָ
and thy mother
Strong's:
H517
Word #:
5 of 15
a mother (as the bond of the family); in a wide sense (both literally and figuratively [like father])
לְמַ֙עַן֙
H4616
לְמַ֙עַן֙
Strong's:
H4616
Word #:
6 of 15
properly, heed, i.e., purpose; used only adverbially, on account of (as a motive or an aim), teleologically, in order that
יַֽאֲרִכ֣וּן
may be long
H748
יַֽאֲרִכ֣וּן
may be long
Strong's:
H748
Word #:
7 of 15
to be (causative, make) long (literally or figuratively)
יָמֶ֔יךָ
that thy days
H3117
יָמֶ֔יךָ
that thy days
Strong's:
H3117
Word #:
8 of 15
a day (as the warm hours), whether literal (from sunrise to sunset, or from one sunset to the next), or figurative (a space of time defined by an asso
עַ֚ל
H5921
עַ֚ל
Strong's:
H5921
Word #:
9 of 15
above, over, upon, or against (yet always in this last relation with a downward aspect) in a great variety of applications
אֲשֶׁר
H834
אֲשֶׁר
Strong's:
H834
Word #:
11 of 15
who, which, what, that; also (as an adverb and a conjunction) when, where, how, because, in order that, etc
יְהוָ֥ה
which the LORD
H3068
יְהוָ֥ה
which the LORD
Strong's:
H3068
Word #:
12 of 15
(the) self-existent or eternal; jeho-vah, jewish national name of god
אֱלֹהֶ֖יךָ
thy God
H430
אֱלֹהֶ֖יךָ
thy God
Strong's:
H430
Word #:
13 of 15
gods in the ordinary sense; but specifically used (in the plural thus, especially with the article) of the supreme god; occasionally applied by way of
Cross References
Colossians 3:20Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.Deuteronomy 5:16Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.Mark 7:10For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and, Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the death:Proverbs 30:17The eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the young eagles shall eat it.Leviticus 19:3Ye shall fear every man his mother, and his father, and keep my sabbaths: I am the LORD your God.Proverbs 20:20Whoso curseth his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness.Exodus 21:17And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death.Luke 18:20Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Honour thy father and thy mother.Exodus 21:15And he that smiteth his father, or his mother, shall be surely put to death.Matthew 19:19Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
Historical Context
Ancient Near Eastern cultures valued parental honor, but Israel's command is unique in directly tying national longevity to family honor. Archaeological evidence shows ancient Israel's extended family structures supporting multiple generations.
Questions for Reflection
- How does 'honor' differ from 'obey,' and why does honor extend beyond childhood?
- What is the relationship between family stability and national flourishing—why does society's health depend on honoring parents?
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Analysis & Commentary
Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.
The first command governing human relationships addresses family—society's foundation. 'Honour' (כַּבֵּד, kabbed) means 'give weight to,' treat with gravitas, respect. It's heavier than 'obey'—obedience is for children, but honor is lifelong. Adult children honor aging parents by providing care. Paul calls this 'the first commandment with promise' (Ephesians 6:2)—obeying brings blessing. 'Long days on the land' connects obedience to national survival—societies honoring family continuity thrive; those abandoning elders collapse. The land is gift ('which YHWH thy God gives thee')—tenure depends on covenant faithfulness. Christ rebukes using religious excuses to avoid parental support (Mark 7:10-13).