If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
Jesus states discipleship's cost: 'If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.' The term 'hate' (μισεῖ, misei) is Semitic hyperbole for radical prioritization—Jesus must come before all human relationships, even the most intimate and sacred. The list encompasses all family relationships: parents, spouse, children, siblings. The phrase 'yea, and his own life also' (ἔτι τε καὶ τὴν ψυχὴν ἑαυτοῦ, eti te kai tēn psychēn heautou) means even self-preservation must yield to Christ's lordship. The conclusion 'he cannot be my disciple' (οὐ δύναται εἶναί μου μαθητής, ou dynatai einai mou mathētēs) is absolute—partial commitment is impossible. Discipleship requires total allegiance.
Historical Context
This teaching radically challenged first-century values. Family loyalty was paramount in ancient Mediterranean culture—dishonoring parents or abandoning family was unthinkable. Jesus doesn't counsel literal hatred (which would contradict the fifth commandment) but demands that when allegiances conflict, Christ must prevail. Early Christians faced precisely this—following Jesus often meant family rejection, disinheritance, even persecution by relatives (Matthew 10:34-37, Luke 12:51-53, 21:16). This cost persists globally—converts from other religions frequently lose family, home, and social standing. The teaching confronts comfortable Western Christianity that domesticates discipleship.
Questions for Reflection
How does Jesus' demand for supreme loyalty challenge contemporary Christianity's accommodation with culture?
What might it mean today to 'hate' family members for Christ's sake—what conflicts of loyalty do modern disciples face?
How do you balance honoring parents and loving family with giving Christ absolute priority?
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Analysis & Commentary
Jesus states discipleship's cost: 'If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.' The term 'hate' (μισεῖ, misei) is Semitic hyperbole for radical prioritization—Jesus must come before all human relationships, even the most intimate and sacred. The list encompasses all family relationships: parents, spouse, children, siblings. The phrase 'yea, and his own life also' (ἔτι τε καὶ τὴν ψυχὴν ἑαυτοῦ, eti te kai tēn psychēn heautou) means even self-preservation must yield to Christ's lordship. The conclusion 'he cannot be my disciple' (οὐ δύναται εἶναί μου μαθητής, ou dynatai einai mou mathētēs) is absolute—partial commitment is impossible. Discipleship requires total allegiance.