Romans 12:10
Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
Original Language Analysis
τῇ
G3588
τῇ
Strong's:
G3588
Word #:
1 of 9
the (sometimes to be supplied, at others omitted, in english idiom)
εἰς
one to another
G1519
εἰς
one to another
Strong's:
G1519
Word #:
3 of 9
to or into (indicating the point reached or entered), of place, time, or (figuratively) purpose (result, etc.); also in adverbial phrases
φιλόστοργοι
Be kindly affectioned
G5387
φιλόστοργοι
Be kindly affectioned
Strong's:
G5387
Word #:
5 of 9
fond of natural relatives, i.e., fraternal towards fellow christian
τῇ
G3588
τῇ
Strong's:
G3588
Word #:
6 of 9
the (sometimes to be supplied, at others omitted, in english idiom)
Cross References
Hebrews 13:1Let brotherly love continue.Philippians 2:3Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.1 John 4:11Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.1 Peter 1:22Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently:1 Peter 2:17Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king.1 Thessalonians 4:9But as touching brotherly love ye need not that I write unto you: for ye yourselves are taught of God to love one another.Galatians 5:13For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.Psalms 133:1Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!Galatians 5:22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,2 Peter 1:7And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.
Historical Context
Roman society was obsessed with honor (Latin dignitas)—public recognition, social rank, and reputation determined one's worth. Competitions for honor drove politics, patron-client relations, and daily interactions. Honor was a limited commodity: gaining it meant taking it from someone else. Into this honor-shame culture, Paul introduces a revolutionary ethic: Christians compete to give honor away, not accumulate it. This upside-down value system reflected Jesus's teaching that greatness comes through service (Mark 10:42-45).
Questions for Reflection
- How does viewing fellow believers as family ('kindly affectioned,' 'brotherly love') change the way you treat them?
- In what relationships are you demanding honor rather than 'preferring' others—insisting on your rights instead of yielding them?
- What would it look like this week to 'go before' someone in honor—actively seek ways to recognize, appreciate, and elevate them?
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Analysis & Commentary
Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another; Paul specifies what sincere love looks like in the Christian community. Kindly affectioned (φιλόστοργοι, philostorgoi) describes the natural affection within families—tender, warm-hearted devotion. This word appears only here in the New Testament, combining philos (friendship) and storgē (family affection). Paul adds brotherly love (φιλαδελφίᾳ, philadelphia), another compound: love for siblings. Together, these terms paint the church as a family bound not by blood but by Christ. Believers should feel toward one another the instinctive affection of brothers and sisters.
The second phrase, in honour preferring one another (τῇ τιμῇ ἀλλήλους προηγούμενοι, tē timē allēlous proēgoumenoi), literally means 'going before one another in honor'—taking the lead in showing respect. This command subverts the Roman honor-shame culture, where social climbing and self-promotion dominated. Paul calls Christians to outdo each other not in status-seeking but in honor-giving. This is countercultural love: instead of demanding respect, bestow it; instead of asserting your rights, yield them. Philippians 2:3-4 captures this attitude: 'in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.'