Proverbs 21:14
A gift in secret pacifieth anger: and a reward in the bosom strong wrath.
Original Language Analysis
בַּ֭סֵּתֶר
in secret
H5643
בַּ֭סֵּתֶר
in secret
Strong's:
H5643
Word #:
2 of 8
a cover (in a good or a bad, a literal or a figurative sense)
יִכְפֶּה
pacifieth
H3711
יִכְפֶּה
pacifieth
Strong's:
H3711
Word #:
3 of 8
properly, to bend, i.e., (figuratively) to tame or subdue
אָ֑ף
anger
H639
אָ֑ף
anger
Strong's:
H639
Word #:
4 of 8
properly, the nose or nostril; hence, the face, and occasionally a person; also (from the rapid breathing in passion) ire
Historical Context
Gift-giving was central to ancient Near Eastern diplomacy and relationship maintenance. Jacob's gifts to Esau exemplify using generosity to pursue peace with an estranged brother.
Questions for Reflection
- Are you willing to pursue peace proactively through humble generosity?
- How can you use resources to heal relationships rather than merely assert your rights?
Analysis & Commentary
A well-timed secret gift can pacify anger and avert wrath. 'Gift in secret' and 'reward in the bosom' both suggest discreet generosity that allows the offended party to save face without public capitulation. This isn't bribery but wise peacemaking through humble generosity. Sometimes conflicts escalate due to pride; a gracious gift can defuse tension by demonstrating good will. The principle recognizes human nature's responsiveness to kindness. However, this must be distinguished from bribing judges or purchasing injustice—the context is personal reconciliation, not corrupting justice. Believers should be creatively proactive in pursuing peace, using resources wisely to heal relationships and prevent unnecessary conflict.