Proverbs 28:23
He that rebuketh a man afterwards shall find more favour than he that flattereth with the tongue.
Original Language Analysis
מ֘וֹכִ֤יחַ
He that rebuketh
H3198
מ֘וֹכִ֤יחַ
He that rebuketh
Strong's:
H3198
Word #:
1 of 7
to be right (i.e., correct); reciprocal, to argue; causatively, to decide, justify or convict
אָדָ֣ם
a man
H120
אָדָ֣ם
a man
Strong's:
H120
Word #:
2 of 7
ruddy i.e., a human being (an individual or the species, mankind, etc.)
אַ֭חֲרַי
afterwards
H310
אַ֭חֲרַי
afterwards
Strong's:
H310
Word #:
3 of 7
properly, the hind part; generally used as an adverb or conjunction, after (in various senses)
חֵ֣ן
more favour
H2580
חֵ֣ן
more favour
Strong's:
H2580
Word #:
4 of 7
graciousness, i.e., subjective (kindness, favor) or objective (beauty)
יִמְצָ֑א
shall find
H4672
יִמְצָ֑א
shall find
Strong's:
H4672
Word #:
5 of 7
properly, to come forth to, i.e., appear or exist; transitively, to attain, i.e., find or acquire; figuratively, to occur, meet or be present
Cross References
Psalms 141:5Let the righteous smite me; it shall be a kindness: and let him reprove me; it shall be an excellent oil, which shall not break my head: for yet my prayer also shall be in their calamities.Matthew 18:15Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
Historical Context
Ancient royal courts were notorious for flattering courtiers who told kings what they wanted to hear. True prophets brought rebuke (Nathan to David, 2 Samuel 12; Micaiah to Ahab, 1 Kings 22) and faced hostility—but history vindicated them. Proverbs advocates the prophetic courage to speak uncomfortable truth.
Questions for Reflection
- Who in your life loves you enough to rebuke you—and are you receiving their correction with gratitude?
- Where might you be flattering rather than speaking truth, seeking immediate approval over long-term benefit?
- How can you cultivate both the courage to rebuke when necessary and the humility to receive rebuke?
Analysis & Commentary
He that rebuketh a man afterwards shall find more favour (מוֹכִיחַ אָדָם אַחֲרַי חֵן יִמְצָא, mokhiach adam acharai chen yimtsa)—מוֹכִיחַ (mokhiach, 'one who rebukes, reproves, corrects') brings אַחֲרַי (acharai, 'afterward, later') the discovery (מָצָא, matsa) of חֵן (chen, 'favor, grace'). Initially painful, faithful correction produces later gratitude. Proverbs 27:6: 'Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.'
Than he that flattereth with the tongue (מִמַּחֲלִיק לָשׁוֹן, mimachaliq lashon)—חָלַק (chalaq, 'to be smooth, slippery, flattering') with the לָשׁוֹן (lashon, 'tongue') produces immediate pleasure but eventual harm. Flattery deceives, rebounds, and destroys relationships. Paul refused such tactics: 'For neither at any time used we flattering words' (1 Thessalonians 2:5). True love speaks truth (Ephesians 4:15).