Proverbs 24:26
Every man shall kiss his lips that giveth a right answer.
Original Language Analysis
Historical Context
In ancient Near Eastern culture, kissing expressed various relationships—family affection (Genesis 27:26-27; 45:15), romantic love (Song of Solomon 1:2), greeting (Romans 16:16), honor (1 Samuel 10:1), and reconciliation (Genesis 33:4). The kiss became cultural shorthand for genuine, warm relationship. Jesus contrasted genuine versus false kisses—Judas betrayed Him with a kiss (Luke 22:48). The 'holy kiss' in early church practice (Romans 16:16; 1 Corinthians 16:20; 2 Corinthians 13:12; 1 Thessalonians 5:26; 1 Peter 5:14) expressed Christian fellowship. This proverb's point is that honest speech creates the relational warmth represented by a kiss. Flattery and lies may seem diplomatic but ultimately alienate; truth builds authentic connection. Church history shows that communities built on honesty and transparency thrive, while those tolerating deception fracture.
Questions for Reflection
- Do your words build trust and authentic connection, or do dishonesty and flattery undermine your relationships?
- When have you experienced the 'kiss'—the warmth and respect—that comes from someone speaking difficult truth lovingly?
- How can you cultivate a pattern of 'right answers'—truthful, appropriate, timely speech?
Analysis & Commentary
This verse uses affectionate imagery to describe honest speech. 'Every man shall kiss his lips' (יִשַּׁק שְׂפָתָיִם/yissaq sefatayim, he kisses the lips) employs the Hebrew idiom of kissing to express affection, honor, and approval. 'That giveth a right answer' (מֵשִׁיב דְּבָרִים נְכֹחִים/meshiv devarim nekochim, one who returns upright/straight words) describes truthful, appropriate responses. Honest speech builds trust, resolves conflicts, and strengthens relationships. The 'kiss' metaphor appears elsewhere: 'Mercy and truth are met together; righteousness and peace have kissed each other' (Psalm 85:10). Paul commanded: 'Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another' (Ephesians 4:25). Truthful communication is the foundation of healthy community. Conversely, lies destroy relationships: 'A lying tongue hateth those that are afflicted by it' (Proverbs 26:28).